Our Roots!

Another area of intense interest to me is Genealogy.
Studying my family's roots brings me an awareness of the continuity of time and people
and the connectedness we all share.

My family connections are linked into this Genealogy Section of my site.

The major names in the family are:

Ainscough, Chalfant, Baglin/Bagley, Cloud, Crawford, Crow, Cunningham (my maiden name),
Durbin,
Heaton, Ksiazek, Ogier, Rasey, Sarchet, Sargent, Sheeks and Thompson.

If you have any information on these surnames, want to check out what I have in my family tree outlines
or are just curious, please click on the underlined words and you'll be transported to the family pages.

Just a word in explanation of the numbers you see preceeding each name: they represent the generation numbers.
For example: On the Durbin Page, since Samuel Durbin and Ann Logsdon are the first generation being recorded,
they are generation 1 (unnumbered). Their children are numbered "2" -- the second generation.
Subsequently, the second generations' children are numbered "3" (third generation from the original known ancestors)
and so on down the families.

Where there was more than one spouse, the descendants from the first one will be listed
by generation beneath that spouse and then the next spouse's children will come under him or her.
On some of the Charts, you may find a second wife or husband many lines down from the first one
because that family was quite prolific!
Please, keep looking!



And now, I hope you will enjoy my tips for...

 

GROWING YOUR FAMILY TREE!

Lucinda C. Durbin ©1997

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There are certain basic necessities required for growing a Family Tree.

In my opinion, the key word is "growing", which includes finding out about yourself and your personal relationships
-- your past, present and future.

The discoveries you make could change your life. To that end let's look at a few of those necessary parts:


YOU!

Start with yourself. No matter what your age, nationality, sex, birth order position, education or marital relationship,
you are the growth center in this family tree.

Write down what you know of your beginnings.
Naturally, the facts come first: when and where you were born, including the time.

Who, besides your mother, was present? Were you born in a hospital? At home?
Were you on time, overdue, or did you come surprisingly early?
Were there special health problems associated with your birth? Do they continue?

Be as detailed as you can.

If your mind wanders to special stories you have been told about your birth, go ahead and write them NOW.
Don't wait until later when you may have forgotten them.

I remember being told that, as a third daughter with no sons in the family, the nurse present at my birth said,
"Oh, no! Not another girl! But she gave me a lovely doll as a birth gift.
I wonder what she would have given me if I'd been a boy?


YOUR PARENTS!

What is their background as a couple? Have you had the chance to talk about their life before you came along?
Have you done it? If not, do it now. Don't wait for a time that may not come.>

When you were born, were there special ceremonies -- religious, tribal, familial -- that were conducted?
How did these ceremonies affect your parents? Have they affected you in your maturation process and memories?
Do you remember any of them?

My very earliest memory is of my own Baptism. Since I was under a year old at the time, for many years
I denied the possibility that this could be real. However, that is no longer the case:
I know that the face of the minister who baptized me is imprinted on my consciousness and
I feel the coolness of the water and the gentle firmness of his hand.

Perhaps my memory was forever impacted because of the significance the ceremony holds for me and my family.
Who knows? Certainly, it is something I hold sacred.


YOUR SIBLINGS!

Do you have sisters and brothers? List them.

Do you know where they were born? Write it down.

What is your relationship with them? This may be the time to let your thoughts expand and your feelings come forth.

Here, also, is the place for you to record spouses or special friends of your siblings and their children.
Write their birth dates, birth locations and anything you especially remember about them.

Being the youngest in the family, six years behind my middle sister and nine behind my oldest, I often wanted
to participate in the things they were doing. Fortunately, these activities frequently included Church plays,
Girl Scout badge projects and other things where a "baby" sister could have a part.

The three of us shared a love of dolls and my middle sister and I made several paper dolls that I still have.

As is the case in many families, we do not live in close proximity. So, I treasure these small remembrances.


YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY!

Who are they?

Traditionally, your "immediate" family consists of the persons who are related to you and living in the same household.
However, in today's society, your immediate family may include others as well.

My "immediate family" consists of my husband. But at one time, our household included our four children,
a dog, a couple of cats and whomever happened to be around to eat dinner or bed down on the couch on any given night.

Three of the four children now are parents themselves; we have five grandchildren and two great grandchildren.

These wonderful, sometimes frustrating human beings have shared my life for many years and I am continually amazed
at the memories that keep flooding in, ones that I want to share with them as I work on my own "growing" Tree.

As I find more information about myancestors, I also find a deeper need to strengthen the present-day ties to my husband,
children grand amd great grandchildren.


YOUR GRANDPARENTS!

Who shaped your parents' lives? What were the influences that guided these people who lived two generations ago?
How did the historic events of the times in which they gave birth to and raised your parents affect them?

Besides the basic questions of when and where they were born, see if you can find out the attitudes,
personal habits and family values that are your inheritance.

Someone once said that when an elderly person dies, a library ceases to exist.
Have you ever thought of your grandparents as being that full of "reference material" and wisdom?

All four of my grandparents died while I was between the ages of four and seven.
I never met my father's parents but I have some memories of my mother's.

My most vivid memory is of sitting on my Grandfather's bed dressed in an angel costume and looking at his snowy, white hair.
We actually have a snapshot of that moment, but it is not the photo that gives me the recollection.
There is a feeling of being there and a certain glow as he looked at me with such love.
I was named for his mother, and it is through him that I received my nickname "Cindy."

How I wish I had been older when the "libraries" that were my grandparents passed into the next life.
And how much I long to know about them and their memories!


EARLIER ANCESTORS!

Now comes the fun!

Research! Research! Research!

Courthouse files, libraries, church records, cemetery stones and registers, Census Reports, Citizenship Filings --
these are but some of the resources at your disposal.

If you are fortunate, there were those in your family who collected and held onto letters, photographs, legal documents
and diaries from your ancestors. Perhaps there was even a genealogist among them
who created a Family Tree from which you can work.

If you are like most people, however, there search may be slow and painstaking.
Then, suddenly, a matching person appears, then another and another. And as you fill in the blanks
and watch the growth of your Family Tree, a satisfaction like no other will burst into your life.

My favorite source of ancestral research material is my computer, a program called Family Tree Maker,
and the Internet itself. Through the latter my husband and I have been able to connect with
relatives we never knew existed, literally "cousins by the dozens!".

We have "met" cousins several times removed into whose Family Trees our information "grafted" and
filled in lacking information. And, we have opened channels of communication in England and Wales
that otherwise would have been impossible for us to find.

Of course, since you are reading this, you have discovered the WWW's resources yourself, and this is superfluous.
But if you have not searched for your family using this wonderful tool, get busy!


HISTORIC PERSPECTIVE!

You may have memorized cold dates and facts in your high school history classes because you had to.
Now you may find that you want to know what was happening when your three-times great grandfather
emigrated from Europe. Was he driven out because of religious persecution or did he leave simply because he was not the
eldest son and therefore would have no inheritance?

Did your great-grandparents seek the opportunity to educate their children in traditional ways while the country in which
they lived was overrun by another nation that prohibited their doing so? Or had an earlier imigrant painted a wondrous picture
of the land to which he or she had moved, such a magnificent portrait that your relatives just had to see for themselves?

History takes on a new dimension when ancestors are connected to it.

As I prepare to write a narrative of the families who are united in my background, I realize how important it is that
I know the history of the lands from whence they came. And, I need to include something of the milieu into which they arrived.
These must be in the story if it is to make any sense now and in the future.

I also plan to write of the events that shaped my life and moments that my children probably do not remember
from their early childhood. Such things as waking my firstborn to have him watch Neil Armstrong
take the first human step on the moon, my husband's pointing out to his oldest child
the passing of "Sputnik" across the skies of Cantril,Iowa --
these are part of their "historic perspective."

And a new addition to the historic moments to be remembered: the dawning of the year 2000.

My husband and I watched on television the wondrous New Zealand and Australian welcoming
ceremonies, the magical songs of the native peoples as they lifted their voices to greet the rising sun.
Somehow, these images have imprinted themselves in my mind, making me feel a part of the world
and a celebrant in the heritage of the ages.